Anointing does not reduce romance, Adeboye counsels couples

The General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, Pastor Enoch Adeboye, has opened up about the importance of maintaining romance in marriage, even in the midst of spiritual responsibilities.

In a candid revelation, Adeboye shared that he and his wife, Foluke, still nurture their love with pet names when they are alone, emphasising that “anointing does not reduce romance.”

Through his heartfelt message, he urged married couples, especially pastors, to prioritise intimacy and romance, ensuring their marriages remain vibrant and joyful.

“Don’t let romance die,” he counselled.

The pastor in a Friday post on his official Facebook handle, disclosed that he has a pet name that he calls his wife, Foluke, when they are alone and that anointing does not reduce romance in marriage.

He explained that some pastors avoid romantic activities, believing it distracts from their spiritual focus. Adeboye emphasised that being anointed should not negate the need for romance, drawing an example from the Bible.

He said, “Some pastors hardly go on dates with their spouses because they consider such a romantic activity a distraction from their focus on spiritual matters.”

He advised couples to rekindle their connection and spend quality time together, ensuring that their marriage remains fun and loving:
“Once in a while, compose a poem for your spouse… Have a pet name that you call each other behind closed doors.”

Finally, he shared a personal detail, underscoring that even in their senior roles, he and his wife still prioritise their bond as lovers:
“Up until today, there is a pet name my wife calls me when we are alone… When we are alone, we are lovers, not Daddy G.O and Mummy G.O.”

Adeboye highlighted that being a Christian doesn’t remove the need for romance in marriage, urging couples, especially pastors, to not neglect intimacy for spiritual duties. He cited Isaac’s playful interaction with Rebekah in Genesis 26:8 as an example of balancing anointing with romance.

“The fact that you are a Christian does not in any way take the romance out of your marriage. Marriage is the only institution where romance and intimacy are allowed between a man and a woman.

“Some pastors hardly go on dates with their spouses because they consider such a romantic activity as a distraction from their focus on spiritual matters.

“Some of them don’t even play with their spouses anymore. Beloved, the anointing does not reduce the need for romance in marriage.”

He encouraged couples to rekindle their connection, reminding them of the joy and fun they shared before life’s responsibilities took over. He stresses the importance of making time for each other and keeping their bond strong.

“Isaac was an anointed man of God and a successful businessman, yet in Genesis 26:8, the Bible says he was being romantic with his wife:
And it came to pass, when he had been there a long time, that Abimelech, king of the Philistines, looked out at a window, and saw, and, behold, Isaac was sporting with Rebekah, his wife.

“Don’t become too rigid in your marriage; don’t have more fun elsewhere without your spouse. Make the times that you and your spouse spend together so much fun that you are always looking forward to seeing each other again. If you are married, remember how you used to talk for long hours with your spouse before you got married and had children; revive that relationship again.

“Your spouse is still the same fellow you were very fond of, and the things you loved in him or her are still there. Don’t let all the cares of this life distract you from the gems in your spouse.

He suggested simple acts like writing notes, using pet names, and surprising each other to keep the romance alive.

Adeboye shared that even he and his wife still do this, advising couples to be intentional about nurturing love in their marriage.

“Once in a while, compose a poem for your spouse and read it to him or her in a romantic setting. Spice things up with pleasant surprises every now and then. Write a note and put it in his or her bag so that when they get to the office and open their bag, they will see the note and smile.

“Have a pet name that you call each other behind closed doors. Up until today, there is a pet name my wife calls me when we are alone. I equally have a pet name that I call her, and every time I call her by that name, she cannot but smile at me lovingly.

“When we are alone, we are lovers, not Daddy G.O. and Mummy G.O. Your marriage can be like heaven on earth if you and your spouse are deliberate about remaining the lovebirds that you were when you first got married. Don’t let the romance die,” he concluded.